As some of you may know due to my Orencia and other medications that I require to maintain basic function sort of rule out biological parenting. Some in my position opt to discontinue their medications in order to become pregnant but can never take them again due to the immune system developing antibodies against them [this is difficult with my severity]. Additionally both my fiance and I have genetically linked health conditions which we feel are irresponsible to pass down [between the 2 of us we have 3 types of arthritis]. It is due to this that after my fiance and I are married permanent measures will be taken to assure no pregnancies occur. That being said it would appear that the closer we get to the wedding the more individuals feel they have a right to ask when we will be procreating. Now I’ve never felt that marriage and parenting were synonymous, they are two very different types of commitment in my eyes. Eventually my partner and I will have children via adoption but everyone feels they are entitled to ask us when we will “start trying” as we approach our wedding date. It is difficult for me to essentially be infertile in my early 20’s and even harder when everyone feels they have a right to inquire as to our family planning. We have developed some pretty solid party lines for the time being such as: “Well we are waiting until I graduate” or “we want to be a couple first”, while both of these are true it tends to dissuade nosy individuals. The point is people need to stop inquiring as to strangers reproductive choices, it is frustrating and can be hurtful given the individual’s situation.